I want to update you on the last three months, and let you know where we are on our IVF journey.
To make a long story short, the Lupon didn’t work. My blood work indicated that there was no change in my estrogen levels; therefore, as the endometriosis and fibroids didn’t shrink — IVF (at this time) is not an option.
The news was delivered by Dr. H. Initially, it made me very upset – my thoughts raced… it didn’t work!? No IVF – no baby!? Things never seem to go as you’d like them to in this process – at least not for us!!!
I took a deep breath (okay it was more like 2 or 3) and began to think…there’s nothing we can do about it. We’ve done EVERYTHING possible.
It’s hard to accept that having a biological baby isn’t our near future, but I’m learning. I have to let go of wanting for my own sanity. I have to let go to feel okay. I have to let go because I just have to. It’s not up to me or us. As much as I hate this saying…it is what it is. And that sums it up perfectly.
My husband and I have kept ourselves busy focusing what we CAN do to become parents, which led us to explore foster care. After our research and discussions with a couple who has gone through a similar situation, we decided it could be the right thing for us. We registered for a foster care certification class. And now—10 weeks later— we are almost certified (our last class is Saturday).
Why foster care? Well, we want to be parents. We want to, and have the ability to, open our hearts to a child that needs love, support and a family.
The classes we’ve taken have been transformative. They haven’t been easy – there have been times we’ve wanted to quit. The information can be overwhelming and almost unbelievable. Our eyes have been opened to a reality we’ve never known. These children are in a position which most people never imagined or experienced — to be taken from their parents due to neglect or abuse. We’ve learned so much and the class as become close – like a family. I’m so proud of my classmates and future foster parents. These are amazing, selfless people. They inspire us.
Besides taking classes, we are working with a caseworker and after our class on Saturday we will be getting our certification. We will soon be parenting a child (between the ages of 0-2).
Ultimately, we would like to adopt through this process, but we realize that might not be the case for all the children that we care for. And that’s okay. Our goal is to advocate for them, give them love, consistency and safety. Give them a chance to meet their full potential. Doesn’t every child deserve this?
My husband and I are looking forward to where fostering takes us as a family. We are looking forward to making a difference in the lives of children and in our community.
I’ll keep you updated. We could have a placement as soon as the next few weeks or months.
As always, thank you for your love and support. What a journey. And another begins…